Si Dian Jin 101: The Complete Guide For Brides-To-Be
Adhering to traditional customs makes a marriage ceremony even more symbolic and meaningful. One of the long-standing Chinese wedding traditions that continues to be practised is the Si Dian Jin, a betrothal gift by the groom’s mother that symbolises a bride’s welcome into the family.
Keeping the customs and traditions of Chinese weddings alive is crucial as it goes back to one’s roots and heritage. If you’re tying the knot soon, here’s a helpful guide to learn more about the Si Dian Jin.
What is Si Dian Jin?
Si Dian Jin translates to ‘four touches of gold’, inspired by the rooftops of houses in the Teochew province during the olden days. It is a 4-piece jewellery set that includes a ring, a necklace, a bangle and a pair of earrings, representing a blissful future for the newlyweds.
Si Dian Jin jewellery also incorporates traditional and meaningful designs to symbolise a blissful marital union. For instance, the Dragon and Phoenix 龙凤 bangle represents a match made in heaven and sends blessings to a marriage that will last a lifetime.
Why is it important?
The betrothal gifting is presented by the groom’s mother, which signifies the acceptance of the bride as a new member of the family. It also symbolises the groom’s commitment towards his future wife, giving her assurance that she will always have a roof over her head and be well taken care of.
At the same time, Si Dian Jin can be kept as a family heirloom to be passed from one generation to the next. This makes for a cherished tradition and extends its value beyond than just a jewellery set. When handed down to your future children, they can appreciate the well-wishes and great significance behind your own Si Dian Jin when starting their own family.
When is it presented?
In a traditional Chinese wedding, the customs take place during the wedding preparation phase and the actual day itself.
Around 2 to 4 weeks before the wedding, the groom’s family will visit the bride’s house on an auspicious date to deliver betrothal gifts including the Si Dian Jin. As such, the mother-in-law may present other jewellery to the bride during the tea ceremony.
This day is also known as the Chinese betrothal ceremony or Guo Da Li, which marks the formal meeting between both families.
What is Guo Da Li?
Rich in meaning and history, the tradition of Guo Da Li stems from the belief that when a daughter is married, she will be received into her husband’s family. Betrothal gift baskets are given during the Guo Da Li ceremony to symbolise a groom’s promise and eternal commitment to the bride.
They usually contain a typical set such as a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, cans pig trotters, oranges, Double Happiness stickers, traditional wedding cakes, and a red packet for the bride (pin jin) which is also known as dowry money.
Guo Da Li items may vary depending on one’s dialect group, but ultimately, they convey good fortune and blessings. This occasion not only showcases the generosity of the groom’s family, but also creates goodwill between the in-laws.
Who buys the Si Dian Jin?
In present times, brides-to-be shop together with their mother-in-law to pick their ideal Si Dian Jin designs. This also provides the opportunity to bond and build stronger ties for a harmonious relationship.
Gold has always been significant in the choice for Si Dian Jin due to its value. But today’s contemporary designs and trends allow brides to pick modern variations of the traditional auspicious symbols and jewellery materials such as jade and diamonds. They will also get to wear their Si Dian Jin again for everyday and special occasions after the wedding.
At SK Jewellery, our Si Dian Jin collection is beautifully crafted with the purest gold and intricate symbols to bestow blessings and good fortune for a blissful marriage. Visit our showrooms to explore our bridal jewellery selection and let us help you mark the special journey of your wedding day and beyond. For diamond rings and jewellery, browse our Star Carat lab grown diamonds collection.